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Wednesday, August 29, 2012

An Apology

So Eric has changed.  He's a new pastor.  No more preaching about curses, no slamming people and I'd assume no more "going to heaven exhausted".  Nice.  You repented of preaching this way.  Again, how nice. 

Now where is the apology for the lives you destroyed?  Where is the apology for the people you kicked out because they weren't living up to your grand expectations?  Where is the apology for the people whose faith you pulverized?  Where is the apology for the children whose view of God and church exploded in their face due to your actions?  

You preach about going to CR and doing the 12 steps.  You preach that you should admit your mistakes.  You preach amends   

So own this Eric.  
* A note to those that hide any critique from Eric; you aren't helping him,  you aren't helping the situation and you aren't helping God. Back off.

Sunday, August 19, 2012

I'm tired of talking about The Crossing Church

I'm tired of talking about The Crossing Church.  I'm tired of writing this blog.  I'm tired of the subject of spiritual abuse.  I'm tired of watching another person cry and in pain over their experiences at The Crossing Church.  I'm tired of researching how cults manipulate people and finding parallels in my own story.  I'm tired  of being asked "how is that boy doing?".  I'm tired of being asked about the news report.  I'm tired of it all.

I'm tired of hearing Eric Dykstra take the bible out of context.  In one of his latest talks he throws out one of the worst and most misused verses in Christianity: 

1 Corinthians 10:13 - No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

27:30 – "If I go through hard times God has faith in me or I wouldn’t be going through them. Whatever hardship pain or suffering you’ve faced in your life it’s because God looked at your life and said you can handle it."

28:24 – Having a conversation a woman and she goes “I have cancer” and I go “Man! I don’t know how I could handle that!” If I could handle that I’d have cancer. If she’s got cancer God’s got the confidence in her that she can handle it and go through it.

29:01- I went through some hard stuff last year and some of my pastor friends of mine called me and said “This is the tip off man. God’s got some really great stuff for your future!! Your future is going to be ridiculous!”
I'll leave it up to the reader to see the insanity in these statements.  I'll state simply that the verse speaks of temptation and not hardship.  Cancer is not temptation.

These are a few of the people that Eric feels can handle cancer.  So these poor children get cancer and struggle for their lives but when Eric has a 'hard time' it means his future will be great.  Hmmnm...

It's been over a year since the accusations about The Crossing Church began to fly and yet the talk of them being a cult continues.  Watching his latest talk he speaks about his haters in minutes 6-12.  He gets quite animated when talking about the end of the world and Christians being persecuted.  He speaks on 'disloyal church people' and 'betraying and hating on each other'.  Lets be clear Eric; no one was disloyal to you.  We spoke out and continue to speak out on your abusive actions and twisting of the bible.  Now lets go to what Eric says Christ would do to these awful church people 
12:07 - "he loved them back, he was good to them back, he was gracious back". 

I'm tired.  Eric you have to be tired too.  Now since you proclaim to be a follower of Christ, someone that follows his teachings and wants to do his will, I have a proposal for you.  Apologize to those you have hurt and this blog will come down.  I'll put down my sword and walk away.  Clean up your side of the street.  

Matthew 6:14-15 - “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

Mark 11:25 “when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins too.”

Matthew 5:23-25 “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.”

Apologize and I will never say another word; I won't talk about your sermons, your promotions, your Twitter or anything about The Crossing Church.  Face the people you kicked out.  Face the people you have hurt.  Own your actions.